Recently, an interview of mine appeared on Prabhu Prasad’s website, which covered various aspects of my writing, like I how I started writing, my current works published, upcoming projects, and my views on relationships, tips for upcoming writers, details about my latest book, advice to the younger generation.
US President Donald Trump announced his own “Fake News Awards” and in the process exposed a lot of faux-pas by many reputed media houses. Needless to say, the media has not taken it lightly and are calling it as attack on the “Freedom of the Press” except for the fact that Trump has evidence of lies published by media whereas the media has no way to prove Trump wrong.
Cohesiveness and collaborative behavior was always part of the Indianness. The divisions in India have been brought from outside.
Consider this statement – “I was just doing my job”. This is primarily a western construct. And it may sound very sincere, honest and truthful but in reality, it is very dangerous. It is a convenient way to escape larger responsibility and when you see a larger gory picture of which you are a small part, you just sneak out saying, “I was just doing my job”.
Frankly speaking, I wasn’t aware of International Women’s Day until about a few years ago. Only when I started seeing a lot of offers, discounts and schemes being announced by businesses about the same and then a thought occurred to me — Is it about the women’s cause or is it about the business? Time, and again, the answer kept coming back to me that it is all about business under the guise of women’s cause.
There was slightest inkling of a casual coffee conversation leading to so deep a revelation into human psyches but as they say, “Truth is stranger than fiction”, this story was also waiting to unfold.
I was sitting with a friend over a cup of coffee and he was sharing about the stress he was going through as his marriage was not working and he also feared some false cases of dowry harassment/domestic violence would get filed on him so that his wife could get easy money and quick divorce by conveniently shifting the entire blame to husband.
Since, he didn’t have enough money to spare with, he knew he had to fight the case and it would be a long battle too. As he was sharing his thoughts and feelings, he just said, “But, what about my physical needs?”
The words struck me like a thunderbolt and I asked myself, “Are the needs really physical in true sense?”
Sensationalism always works as it tends to garner a lot of curiosity and eyeballs, which in turn allow a message to propagate far and wide.
In a world otherwise grappled with the thoughts of male-chauvinism and privileges of being a male, a movement that talked about the issues faced by men and the need for their rights was sensational in itself.
This sensationalism took the men’s rights movement in India to a much elevated platform wherein, within a very short span of time, the men’s rights activists were able to sensitize the Indian parliament about some of the issues that face men and get them thinking about those issues.
At the same time, a parallel development was taking place. Many women, who were at the receiving end of feminism and Gynocentrism in the society, resorted to men’s rights movement. They took up the cause and started talking about men and their issues.
The recent spate of incidents at JNU has rocked the nation and we see opinions of all varieties and stocks flying in the air. While, the students were either stupid or wanted attention as they severely failed in putting across their point – whatever it may be, even the nationalists failed at multiple points in putting their message across.
The message that came out from JNU was sure to anger many people around given the nature of Indo-Pak politics and the history that we have about the 2001 parliament attack. While I personally do not get goosebumps on everything that’s patriotic or carry a feeling that we are the best nation of the world and so on, but suffice it to say here that it is important to love your country for the following reason.
Human existence is an existence of co-existence. Everything boils down to team-work. As the famous Hindi adage goes – “Akela Chana Jhaad nahi Fod Sakta (No one can do everything alone)”; the same logic applies to societies whether family, locality, township, city, region, state or country. If we wish to grow as a country we must love it, for if we cannot love our own country, how will others?
Often we have heard about sexism in media and all of the sexism that we hear in media is one-sided; sexist language affecting women adversely. Till date we haven’t heard of sexist language that affects men adversely.
So, does that mean that we don’t have anti-male sexist language? And the answer to the question is both a Yes and a No.
Yes, because we do have many such instances wherein sexist anti-male language has been uttered, propagated and accepted socially as well.
No, because mainstream media and society does not consider such language to be sexist. So, what is missing is the recognition of such anti-male language and the content as “being sexist”.